Comments on: Brené Brown — Striving versus Self-Acceptance, Saving Marriages, and More (#409) https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/ Tim Ferriss's 4-Hour Workweek and Lifestyle Design Blog. Tim is an author of 5 #1 NYT/WSJ bestsellers, investor (FB, Uber, Twitter, 50+ more), and host of The Tim Ferriss Show podcast (400M+ downloads) Tue, 09 Feb 2021 18:15:57 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jordan https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-161025 Tue, 09 Feb 2021 18:15:57 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-161025 I absolutely love this episode. This is exactly the sentiment I have been dealing with lately, and striving to find that fine balance between self-acceptance and self-emprovement. I talk about how this striving for the extraordinary has been an obstacle in my recovery from anorexia in the last blog I posted too. Have a read if you like.

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I’ll be back for more!
Jordan xox

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By: Sarah https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-159737 Mon, 11 Jan 2021 18:41:02 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-159737 Listening to this in 2021, I think it’s hilarious that you both said that in 2020 you were looking forward to “Less Travel”. LOL. Be careful what you wish for! But honestly, I loved this chat. So much to chew on. I loved the tip Brene Brown shared about how she and her husband offer what “percent” they are currently able to offer, and how they support each other when the numbers are low. Also very interesting the nuances of self-acceptance (or is it self-delusion?).

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By: Jared S https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-152415 Mon, 11 May 2020 17:57:55 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-152415 Tim,

I have always enjoyed your podcast, but some stand out more than others. That is exactly what this one did for me. For that reason you and Brene are both on my Yoda challenge. I have started with this and Twitter per your requests. I just need 5 minutes of your time for 3 questions. My name is Jared Seaton and sobriety is my superpower as well. [Moderator: email address removed.] Have a great day!

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By: Kat https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-152187 Sat, 02 May 2020 05:04:56 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-152187 Hey Tim,

I’m a new listener and recently heard this episode. I agree with many of the listeners below who think focusing on the internal world is important work for you to continue. It got me thinking – would you ever collaborate with Brene Brown on a book? Or on a project geared toward youth?

I’m a peds nurse and used to be a school nurse. I was able to tour schools in the district over the first few months of my employment there to assess the health needs in our diverse communities for projects I would be working on. In some of the wealthier high achieving areas, I was struck by the mental and emotional health (I typically just call it brain health:-) issues related to significant pressure and focus on performance and achievement. At one school, there had already been approximately 20 instances of suicidal ideation reported to the site nurse, and it was only October.

I love and believe in performance improvement and efficiency. I think it leads to an improved quality of life personally and in our businesses and institutions, but when it comes to our personal goals, I think focus on performance should be related to things you want to pursue and for the right reasons. I know when I was younger especially, I would have appreciated more guidance on personally meaningful achievement; valuing oneself simply for who you are and not what you do/produce and how to deprogram this mindset; how just being the best version of you (aligning w/inner self, natural abilities and desires) can lead to improved performance and happiness; learning to self-assess where my achievement drive was coming from an when I was doing something for ultimately unsatisfying reasons vs. for reasons that would truly be fulfilling; and now, as a middle aged adult – how to “identify and dismantle the armor” (as Mrs. Brown so perfectly put it) that holds us back from connecting and achieving (whatever it is that you want to achieve of course – could be relational). I’ve observed many people in my age group that are only now actively pursuing goals they didn’t think they could achieve when they were younger, or were dissuaded from pursuing by outside pressures and expectations.

I know this is random, but I recently watched Taylor Swift’s documentary, Miss Americana, and it was heartbreaking to me how her extreme need for approval, a sort of “I’m not enough” mentality, drove her success and simultaneously seemed to steal her joy. It was also hopeful film though, as you could see at the end she was finding her path out of that mindset and rediscovering her love of her craft. Again, it made me think of our youth. They really need support in navigating the pressures they face and with finding their own path to fulfillment – their personal version of success and achievement. Someone like you could really do some good in this area 🙂 Maybe you have already and I just don’t know about it because I’m new here!

Anyway, thanks for reading,
Kat

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By: renee https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-151724 Mon, 20 Apr 2020 05:12:05 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-151724 In reply to Rich Dreyling.

Agree!

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By: reneelschroyer https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-151717 Sun, 19 Apr 2020 19:12:38 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-151717 Loved this conversation! Self-awareness and acceptance are most important to everything good. Thank you!

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By: Rich Dreyling https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-151662 Fri, 17 Apr 2020 10:55:48 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-151662 Hey Tim, you mentioned that you were worried that you are losing your audience due to the turn in content. The more inner facing content, like this interview is what drew me back toward your podcast. We are all people on a journey, and maybe its better that those people who don’t want to continue with yours go elsewhere. I would argue that we all can use podcasts, or videos like this, that help us forward and let us know we are not alone. Mike Posner figured that out, and it seems to be working for him.

Thanks for what you’re doing.

Rich

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By: Marty https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-151266 Mon, 06 Apr 2020 21:51:43 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-151266 I am only handful of pages through The Body Keeps The Score and I know this has unearthed something in me that desperately needs the insight it contains. I have followed many of your recommendations over many years, but this one seems like the most important for me so far.

So count me among those of your long-time audience who are not deterred by your foray from performance- to purpose-focused content.

A huge thank you for the improvements you have helped me make.

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By: jwycoff45 https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-151176 Fri, 03 Apr 2020 17:44:27 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-151176 Tim … fyi … I’ve been a somewhat fan and appreciated your work for sometime … but it was a little too win-win-win for me to become a true fan. Your direction into the “inner game” may lose you some audience but gain you others … like me. Thank you for the podcasts along this line … especially in this time of deep introspection brought to us by an unseen virus.

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By: julian https://tim.blog/2020/02/06/brene-brown-striving-self-acceptance-saving-marriages/#comment-150866 Tue, 24 Mar 2020 22:00:35 +0000 https://tim.blog/?p=50264#comment-150866 Hello,

Hearing Tim speak about the shift in his podcast from performance orientated content to one’s internal content/“contents of your consciousness” and his worry that he has lost his audience (33:22 in the episode)—I have been in awe over the path Tim has taken The Tim Ferriss Show with the change over the years in topics discussed, people interviewed on the show, and questions asked by Tim. As one person of The Tim Ferriss Show audience, my interest to listen has only strengthened over time and I am grateful for the work Tim has done within the podcast space and outside (ex. Tim’s philanthropy). In case Tim or Team Tim Ferriss sees this post please tell Tim thank you and that my interest to listen has strengthened over time!

With much gratitude,

julian

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